Find common traits which always make things better for the right kinds of connections at the start. When you learn about people, try to determine their traits so that you know who will be compatible with whom. It may help to create a grid (spreadsheet) and record the names of the people followed by their traits. Then, you can filter on the traits and see who comes up as having similar ones. This is how dating sites work when they try to match up people on the dating scene. Find Out More